Dr Annemarie Millar
Emotional Intelligence Coach
I am a chartered psychologist registered with the British Psychological Society and an Emotional Intelligence (EI) coach. I have over 10 years experience working as a research psychologist. My professional expertise and experience gives clients a high level of confidence and trust in me and my coaching practice and a track record of results. Working as a researcher brings home to me the importance and privilege of helping people to tell their story; something which is core to my coaching practice. My approach to coaching can help you learn and develop EI skills to better understand yourself and others. By integrating my academic training and research in psychology, with my passion and expertise in Emotional Intelligence, I engage with clients in a dynamic and holistic way to achieve the goals that matter most to them.
We each have our own unique story. What is yours?
Emotional Intelligence is the capacity for recognising our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves and for managing emotions effectively in ourselves and others. As such, it is the key differentiator of our potential, a gateway to understanding ourselves and developing our positive qualities.
Despite its importance to how we live our lives, many of us have never been taught how to recognise and relate to our emotions. The priority in most modern societies is providing an education focusing on the material and technical subjects; ignoring an education about emotion and emotional knowledge. As a result, there is a great deal of misunderstanding surrounding the science of emotion and emotional intelligence. Most people think emotional intelligence is something ‘either you have or you don’t’.
In fact, emotional and social competency is not a quality you are born with but a learned capacity. The Emotional and Social Intelligence Competency Model, a unique framework developed by Daniel Goleman and Richard Boyatzis, draws upon our best knowledge and research about the brain and habit change to identify the 12 specific, evidence-based competencies that are the building blocks of emotional and social intelligence. Leadership is not defined by our formal role in an organization; we all have the capacity to lead at any level in our personal or professional lives. Hence this model has deep and wide application.
Coaching just may be the best way to help anyone develop Emotional and Social Intelligence for managing one's self, improving relationships, and elevating performance.
Emotional Intelligence Coaching
Life throws many surprises at us, and while we cannot predict the outcome of any situation, we can take control of how we respond to certain situations. With my coaching sessions, you will learn to develop the EI skills of Self-Awareness, Emotional Balance, Adaptability, Positive Outlook and Empathy that will enable you not just to survive but to thrive. EI coaching is an investment in yourself. By investing in EI coaching you are building the skills that create lasting habit change, that matters most to you.
My unique approach uses an integrated coaching methodology, Learn-Apply-Reflect, to bridge the knowing-doing gap. This methodology leads to sustained habit change and transformation when and where it matters; where the rubber meets the road. I have helped clients to explore challenges that lie below the surface; develop and hone self-awareness to create renewed self-confidence, role of values in personal and professional lives, understand their relationship to conflict, clarity of purpose and articulate a vision for themselves.
For those in leadership/managerial positions, employees are far more than human capital; they're real people who sometimes face painful circumstances. Leaders can't solve every problem or answer every question. But there's one thing they can always do - care. When they get this right, they create a workplace where emotional connections are deep, innovation is second nature, and employees are resilient and thriving.
I offer a range of programmes, from 12 to 24 weeks in duration, of applied, online learning, which is coupled with one-to-one coaching sessions (in-person or via online). Validated assessments, designed to create a baseline for the client and a starting place for our coaching partnership, are also available.
I offer a bespoke consultancy service to explore how Emotional Intelligence can support your individual needs and/or the needs of your organisation.
When I talk to people about EI, two questions come up most frequently. Firstly, many describe EI as 'soft skills' and believe them to be nice to have - but are they essential when it comes to the bottom line? Secondly 'Can you teach someone EI? Linkedin identified EI as one of the top 5 'soft skills' companies most need in 2020.
Change happens on a moment-to-moment basis, and some developments will always be beyond our control. We need to exert influence over what we can, in fact, have an impact on. I believe EI is a superpower and a must-have in our technology-driven society. In 2006, then-President Obama spoke of an 'empathy deficit’ In the US which he described as ‘[m]ore serious than the federal budget deficit'.
In the past, emotional intelligence has largely been thought of as people skills — how we perceive and express ourselves and how we develop and maintain social relationships. Now neuroscience and brain-based leadership studies have shown that EI is so much more:
“If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far"
The synergy between the Emotional Intelligence course and Dr Annemarie Millar is demonstrated in the wisdom of the quote: 'None of us knows what all of us know’
The EI course is invaluable and has got me over the starting line to evaluate my daily interactions with others and develop a long-term view of who I want to be. The coaching aspect of EI with Dr Annemarie Millar gave me permission to explore and delve deep within, asking myself searching questions. My confidence has grown and I feel able to engage at a different level with others.I thought I knew myself until I experienced being coached but, with Dr Millar's experience and knowledge I have now developed a set of values some of which I would never have previously considered.
EI is not about results it is about relationships and I thank Dr Millar for her precious and empathetic approach.